Next workshop - next SUNDAY November 9 2008

The next TAI workshop will take place a week today, Sunday November 9 2008.
TOPIC: NLP from a TA perspective
VENUE: Phone +353 1 4511125 for details
TIME: 1900 assemble for 1930 start (7 for 7:30)
Small DONATION towards expenses

All welcome

Notes from last meeting - Sept 28 2008

TA HUNGERS What Berne says:

GPP p13-15 - 1964
Stimulus hunger
• Need for physical contact, skin to skin.
• Learn to do with symbolic forms of handling
Recognition-hunger
• Need for verbal stroking
• Any strokes are better than no strokes
• Gentle handling and painful electric shocks were equally effective in promoting the health of [research] animals
Structure-hunger
• What do you say to her (him) then?
• Nothing is more uncomfortable than .a period of silent, unstructured time when no one present can think of anything more interesting to say than: ‘Don’t you think the walls are perpendicular tonight?’

WDYSAYSH p21 - 1972
Stroke/ Stimulus Hunger – Touch me and show me I’m alive – Stimulate me and give me a taste of living
• Need for sensation (why roller coasters make money)
Recognition Hunger – Call me by my name and tell me who I am
• Only be supplied by another human being (or animal)
• Milk is not enough, need for sound of mother’s voice, smell, warmth, touch
Structure Hunger – keep me occupied so I’ll know what’s going to happen
• Uneasy with unstructured time
• Why groups tend to grow into organizations
• Why time-structurers are among the most sought after and most highly rewarded members of any society.

SIHL PP191-193 - 1970
Six hungers:
• Stimulus hunger for sensory stimulation of sight and sound and touch, with smell and taste as a bonus for gourmets.
• Recognition hunger, for a special kind of warmth and contact in deeds or words.
• Contact hunger, for physical stroking, although some people settle for pain, or even come to prefer it
• Sexual hunger, to penetrate and be penetrated, which gratifies the other hungers while it happens.
• Structure-hunger is more widespread, and almost as damaging as malnutrition or malaria. When it becomes acute, it turns into incident-hunger, which causes many people to get into trouble and make trouble just to relieve their boredom …
• Incident hunger
• Satan finds some mischief still for idle hands to do
• Keep the troops busy (no matter how) or they’ll lose their morale and their respect for you to boot.’.
Not everybody is comfortable with all six.

Social, biological, psychological

Initially physical, then can be symbolic
Claude Steiner - (article)
Any complete theory of behavior requires an explanation of the motivation, the moving force, the energy that causes behavior. When accounting, as any scientific psychologist must, for why people engaged in transactions at all, Berne framed his explanation in terms of the need for stimulation. It was here that he prefigured the issues that, in my opinion, will become central in XXI century psychology and psychiatry; information hunger.

Hardgaden & Sills Transactional Analysis: A Relational Perspective p6
We believe that our deepest motivation is for contact with others and that a sense of ‘cohesive self’ develops through the quality of the relationship.

MOTIVATION
Define Motivation
Motivation is simply
- The reason for an action
- That which gives purpose and direction to behaviour.
Motivation is “WHAT drives you” to behave in a certain way or to take a particular action. It is your WHY.
If YOUR “WHY” IS BIG ENOUGH, THE HOW DOESN’T MATTER

INTERNET QUOTES
Transactional analysis is a tool which managers can learn to use to increase their motivation, to stop "game" playing and to put their own organizational lives into perspective. The "TA" approach to management is clearly job-oriented and pragmatic. It is a simplified approach to understanding why people act the way they do and what can be done to promote more effective human behavior.
(Washington University)

MASLOW team building and motivation. © Alan Chapman 1995-2007
© Abraham Maslow original Hierarchy of Needs concept; Alan Chapman review and other material, design, code 1995-2008.

WHICH OF THESE WORK AS MOTIVATORS FOR YOU?

INTERNAL MOTIVATORS
Thoughts?
Feelings?
Standards/Principles
Needs?
Wants?
Self-encouragement/stroking

EXTERNAL MOTIVATORS
Other People’s example?
What I think other people might think?
Rewards /positive strokes?
Punishments /negative strokes?
Expected Outcomes?

Better Late than Never - Sept 2008

Sept 26 2008
Dear TA friends
I realize this is very short notice for the next TAI workshop.
We will meet at 8 Seskin View Avenue, Tallaght Dublin 24 this coming SUNDAY, September 28 2008 at 1900 for 1930 start. Buses 77a and 49 come very close.Google map is here Zoom out if you need to.
The TOPIC will be Motivation, as follow through on the last topic.

As always, the workshop will be informal with input on the topic followed by discussion.
TAI workshops are free of charge, with a small donation suggested towards costs.

Looking forward to seeing some of you.
I apologize for the short notice - obviously,either I have the opposite of a 'Hurry Up', or maybe my Rebellious Child is showing.

Warm Fuzzies
Elizabeth

Meeting in September 2008

Would you believe it - we have actually arranged our next meeting date:
Sunday September 28. Topic MOTIVATION. Presenter and venue not confirmed yet.

REPORT: June 22 2008 on COMMITMENT

These are NOTES and FEEDBACK from the TAI meeting on COMMITMENT.

I know that you believe that you understood what you think I said, but I am not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant. Robert McCloskey, State Department spokesman (attributed)

This quotation is a reminder to us that we need to constantly check to make sure that what we think the other person meant, is actually what they DID mean - and nowhere is this more important than in the area of commitment.

These are the questions /topics we discussed and a selection of the responses given by those present.

1. What is COMMITMENT?

Adherence to a cause
Doing what you say you will do
Sticking to your guns
Decision
Truth
Willingness to compromise/work to achieve a desired result

2. What is needed for commitment to exist

Trust
Loyal
Unconditional regard
wish for something
staying with it good or bad

3. What kind of a transaction is a commitment?

Working togethere
Sticking to a decision
Adult to Adult
More than one element involved - (one person plus goal or more than one person)

4. Examples of commitment

Football watching
Persistence against opposition
Truth
Faith
Long life study
focusing

5. Possible levels of commitment

Half-hearted
full
ranges from sincere to selfish
depends on the individual and full commitment is the best

6. One-sided commitment

Heroic
True
Very difficult
Backing off
Inequality

7. Life-long commitment?

Difficult
Truth
Way of life
Lack of growth? Permanent re-affirmation?
Difficult - needs constant communication for it to succeed

8. Why commitments disintegrate?

Miscommunication
changes in committed parties
changed circumstances
Laziness
give up to easily

9. Change as part of ongoing commitment

Disturbance
Acceptance of other's differences
change is necessary sometimes, depending on present circumstances
Acceptance
Flexibility

10. Adjustment to/termination of commitment (one-sided, two-sided)

Keeping your work
Flexibility
completion of contract
Ego state-change
truthfulness in expressing your opinions if you feel dissatisfied
Go with the flow

Commitment quotes

“There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses, only results.” Author Unknown

“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.” Peter F. Drucker quotes (American Educator and Writer, b.1909)

”Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.” Tom Robbins quotes (American Novelist. b.1936)

“Desire is the key to motivation, but it's determination and commitment to an unrelenting pursuit of your goal - a commitment to excellence - that will enable you to attain the success you seek.” Mario Andretti quotes (Italian born American Race driver. b.1940

“Commitment unlocks the doors of imagination, allows vision, and gives us the "right stuff" to turn our dreams into reality.” James Womack quotes

“It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through. Zig Ziglar quotes (American motivational Speaker and Author.

“An ounce of performance is worth pounds of promises. Mae West quotes (American Actress and sex symbol, 1892-1980)

“Commitment in the face of conflict produces character.”

“The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavor.” Vince Lombardi (American Football Coach, national symbol of single-minded determination to win.1913-1970)

When work, commitment, and pleasure all become one and you reach that deep well where passion lives, nothing is impossible.”Author Unknown